Thursday, July 10, 2008

Real Friends, Not Just Bloggy Friends

I spent a happy two hours with Desmama and Nemesis tonight at Desmama's lovely home. We spoke about pending weddings, mortgages, husbands, sex, kids, new babies and families. We ate a delicious key lime pie that Desmama got from Suburban Hippie's blog. (I did not say we ate a piece of key lime pie. We literally ate the pie. Desdad did help.) We talked until well past sunset on Desmama's back porch looking out over the fabulous pastoral scene the Desfam picked for their house-anyone-would-love-to-grow-old in. I can see them doing just that.

As we spoke about such life-changing events as weddings, babies and moves, I realized that as stressful and difficult as certain things are, there is also a lot of joy along with those things. As much as I would love to have a year of my adult life that does not involve at least one MAJOR life decision, I also realize that I would not change hardly anything even if I had the ability to. Our experiences form who we are, and for all the trials and difficult decisions pending, I really do like myself exactly the way I am.

And though the next year will undoubtedly bring more difficult choices: two days ago I slalomed skiied for the first time in three years and it was as though I'd never been away; tonight I sat face to face with two women I absolutely adore; Plantboy and I are still crazy-in-love after nine years; I spent the afternoon conversing with my mother; my kids were both adorable and adoring today; the stars shone so brightly over Bear Lake that ideas for stories are eating at the corners of my brain again.

I think today I was able to live in the joy of the moment.

10 comments:

Sherry said...

You know Nemisis in REAL LIFE? I'm ridiculously jealous.

Of course, I know Janssen in real life, but she's nowhere near as hilarious. Just don't tell her I said it.

Slyck and Slim said...

Oh you're ate Bear Lake -- so jealous. Do you have to wear a wet suit this year? Making more memories...

Janssen said...

Last night Bart and I talked for a long time about how life will basically be busy and full of important decisions from here on out. And I'm glad it's that way, even if it makes me crazy on occasion.

Science Teacher Mommy said...

Too late, Sherry. Janssen already read.

No wetsuit, Slick. I couldn't breathe until I was on TOP of the water, but I'm a tough girl. :)

Christie said...

Isn't bliss living in and enjoying the moment? Sometimes I get so caught up with my lists of what I need to do that I forget to enjoy what I'm doing. Thanks for the reminder.

FoxyJ said...

Sounds like heaven! We're in Utah for a few weeks and I'm really looking forward to getting together with old friends :)

EmAndTrev said...

Sounds like the perfect night. Desmama and Nemesis are fab! :)

EmAndTrev said...

P.S. I love Bear Lake. My grandpa built a family cabin there in the 50s and I have fond memories of going there from the time I was a wee tike up until now. It is wonderful. I can't wait to see what kind of stories you'll put out one day!

Nemesis said...

Sorry I'm late to the party! It really was such a lovely night. I kept being distracted by how ridiculously gorgeous STM is and how I would pay 1 million dollars to have her skin.

Science Teacher Mommy said...

Oh, Nem, you are adorable. And you have to be joking. You must have caught me in the waning twilight on a very good day. My skin is my true nemesis. I hope your job interview was wonderful and that Alaska was great. Good luck next month, dear girl.